I never thought I’d write this, but for some reason my family got involved and I was pretty upset. But now my mind is clear and free, and if anybody is in the same sticky situation as me: I’m writing this post for you.

Recently I have decided to stop pretending not to know about the name calling and false rumour spread from a certain person. It started 5 years ago and to maintain an amicable relationship, I closed an eye and an ear. However recent events has really enlightened me that some people not only do not have conscience but also basic moral values: and really, keeping a distance is the best thing to do.

I have been called a narcissist, evil, toxic, Meghan Munny 😂 (this one is hilarious), and throughout, I just pretended as if I never knew. I really with all my heart wanted to maintain a good relationship. But what would you do if you were in the same situation?

I could, right now expose this person. I could really, right now, post all the evidence and proof that I have that would clear my name to those who have been affected by the lies told about me. I don’t think that person knew just how much evidence I have about him/her, or the fact that others have sent me other evidence because they know me better and many have even been victim of similar issue by the very same culprit.

Luckily for this person, I won’t. I won’t even name this person. Because, I take a higher way.

Even after breaking contact, this person still find the need to go around dragging my name in the mud. I haven’t, because I don’t find the need to. By now many has seen his/her true colours. By now, many only agree just so s/he would stop talking about me. The thing is, this person thinks that everybody is stupid enough not to see the truth.

One thing I ask myself when I was once filled with rage, was “What would Buddha tell me?”.

Will he tell me to clear my name and reclaim my innocence? Will he ask me to right now upload all the transcripts I own? Or will he tell me “What is all these for?”

One of the main teachings Buddha already taught us is “The Right Speech” which has four main components:

• Abstaining from lying
• Divisive speech
• Abusive speech
• Idle chatter / gossip

I wouldn’t be lying if I choose to defend myself right now. But it would definitely be a divisive speech. You see, the people who have been poisoned by her words are either so close to me that they don’t buy it, or barely know me at all. I have no need to explain to those who are close to me as they already first hand told me— they don’t trust anything she say. But the people who are close to her and not me? If they had read the incriminating evidence right now, it would have divided them, and I really have no intention to expose this person and cause everyone to realise her true colour and then leave her side. That’s just plain cruel (although that’s exactly what she’s trying to do to me).

But also, Buddha teaches compassion. To always understand why a person acted that way. This isn’t an action of someone who is happy and satisfied with life. This is an action and behaviour of someone unhappy with her life, and maybe lonely too. My husband has been so supportive of me, and everyone else too, and I’ve been so loved at work, I have Monday and Tuesday at home to love me everyday. I am so happy that I do not find a need to carry out a smear campaign on this person. But it’s clearly different on the other side.

So yes, I shall be compassionate and understanding. But I will also not risk my own happiness to mingle with such a person again. So it really doesn’t matter if she continues to spread false rumour or call me names, because we will not cross path again, and I have my own life to live.

I hope this person can find her own happiness and stop being so obsessed about me, as after this post, everything will leave my mind and I won’t give a toss about her 😂